It is fun and interesting to put yourself in the place of another human being.  To stand in their shoes, look out through their eyes, and imagine what they see.  That hotel clerk you talked to last night; you cut off his speech to ask what time breakfast was, and if you’d only listened, you’d have heard it at the end.  How many people must do that?  What must he wonder about people in general? What behaviors does he see all of the time?  People getting angry when they don’t get what they want? What does he think when he sees this?

 

You have only to ask

 

Transform all your relationships. This is a big promise; how often can you transform anything at all? With all your pushing and pulling in your real world, how many outcomes have you brought about or prevented?

 

 

Transform all your relationships

 

How may this be done, you wonder? Not piecemeal, as in one at a time, ever-improving. This is promise, not change. No, transform means to change completely, as in, turn into something else entirely different. You transform your relationships by changing your inner I am, your conception of yourself. This causes you to change into something entirely different.

 

 

I am lonely. I am anxious. I am subtle. I am sophisticated. I am hardworking. I am a victim.

Whatever. On and on.

Once you have accepted an I am, you will be drawn to situations and people that allow you to bear it out, to illustrate it. If you have I am worthless, your relationships will give evidence of that. You will seek others who are emotionally distant, unavailable, unkind, or not what you want in a myriad ways.

 

 

If you have adopted I am clever, you will be drawn into situations which illustrate this. That you are clever, or think or wish you were, will be something that people know about you.  This will be borne out in your relationships. You will value people differently according to how clever you think they are. You can use whatever criteria you want to decide if they are clever or not. You can spend a lifetime in this pursuit.

But why would you?

 

 

Relationships are transformed by transforming your conception of yourself. Begin by examining different I ams that you have taken to heart. Separate emotion from this process and it is more effective. No shame and no guilt as you unearth your I ams.

Do you find any that serve no good purpose? I am always late.  How is this helping your cause?

I am confused.  Why would you keep this?

I am nervous in front of people. Is this a role you want to play?  Is this something you want to live out?

 

 

Dismiss what does not serve

 

Are there some other I ams that you could embrace now?  You choose. Begin by consciously deciding which I ams are deserving of your increased attention. I am always calm. I am peaceful. I am happy. I am beloved.

And as you pay attention here, turning inward your focus and your light, so do these I ams become rays of light emanating outward from your being, attracting like and transforming every relationship you have.