Stop saying one thing and doing another. You are not being true to yourself; this only wastes time.
Why do you say different things to different people? Why are you tailoring your speech to your audience, your audience to your speech? What is this but defending yourself? From what? What are you afraid of?
Stop pretending to yourself. Stop thinking about your personality, who you are in this world. It is not important. Let it go.
Stop talking about yourself, relating past stories, selecting events to highlight some aspect of your personality. Stop replaying past conversations and planning future ones. You do not need to create yourself. You have already been created.
Stop being less than honest in any way at all. Dishonesty only begets more of the same. Be open to all, and be the same to all. Make your thoughts, words, and deeds match. You are the same always.
To be constant is to be one thing, not to listen to other voices, only to be directed from that wellspring of wisdom within. To be constant is to be ever and always the same, subject to no changes. It is to be out of time, pardoned from it.
Stop playing roles. You have many; you know what they are. Some of them you love, some of them you hate, but all of them you picked up. By all means, fulfill the function that comes with the role: raise your children with love, as best you can, be a dedicated listener for your friends, be a caring physician for your patients, coach your team with enthusiasm and joy. Whatever they are, fulfill your functions well, with grace. And know you are not them.
You are always something more than any role.
The universe becomes conscious through me